At Everyone is Gay, Kristin (right) and Dannielle (left) are girls who like girls who give advice to those who are confused about sexuality, gender-identity, dating, falling in love, or even dressing up like Super Woman. Here on CherryGRRL, these two adorable and brilliant ladies are sharing some of that wonderfully witty advice with our readers, monthly, via this column: The Everyone is Gay Advice Corner with Kristin + Dannielle.
This month Kristin and Dannielle chose 2 reader questions submitted to their site to highlight here on CG. For more Everyone is Gay content and advice visit: http://everyoneisgay.com.
Q: “What should I be doing while I’m still in my 20s?”
Living your life to the fullest, dude. THE FULLEST.
Here’s the thing about your 20s (or 30s or 40s) it all depends on where you are in life, BUT CHANCES ARE now is a great time to do all the things you dream about in your head, but seem impossible. If there are 15 different cities you want to live in… do it. Get dumb ole jobs to pay the rent and sublease for 6 months at a time. If you want to backpack across Europe, DO IT. If you want to collect $10,000 in credit card debt so you can go on four different cruises a month, DO IT.
You are young, nothing is holding you back and here’s the kicker… your dreams actually can come true. You LEGIT can follow your dreams and achieve them. The only thing that’s standing in the way of you having everything you want, is you.
I’ll tell you what you should be doing while you’re in your 20s. Figure out what you would do if NOTHING stood in your way, if you knew for a fact there was no way for you to fail, if money was no obstacle, if you knew all the people you needed to know and you had all the education you needed to have, figure out what that thing would be and do it. Do that thing. Do the thing that gets your heart racing and blood pumping and don’t let ANYONE tell you you can’t.
Yep. Dannielle’s got this one, y’all.
The thing about your twenties is this: you are legitimately learning who you are as a grown-up person. In order to do that best you are going to have to take risks, feel like your world is spinning, be happier than you’ve ever been, be more confused that you’ll ever be, and go after the things you need until you’ve gotten them or learned an incredible lesson trying to get them.
I suggest you write a whole bunch of stuff down about your thoughts, your goals and your fears. Having a way to look back at the past few months when you feel overwhelmed is a great way to put life in perspective. Some of my scariest life-moments in my twenties were calmed when I looked back at my journal for the month prior and realized that I actually had done some, if not all, of the things that I had wanted to do.
Have fun. Take classes in the things that interest you and inspire you. Go see a bunch of movies. Decorate your walls with postcards that you collect at thrift stores. Travel to see your friends in different cities. Fall in love. Read the newspaper. Take yourself out to dinner. Ride your bike. Don’t make decisions based on where you want to be in twenty years…there is plenty of time for that in the future. This is the time when you go on the adventures that will inform those decisions when it is actually time to make them.
(Question #2 on next page)